Awesome Parents of an Adopted Child

The birth of a child is a miracle. Though science can explain it, but majority of us would agree that having a child is a blessing. After having personally experienced it, I do believe that it is the most amazing wonder of God.

I read in an article from BBC news health report, with the complexities of life in the 21^st century 1 in 7 couples experience infertility and the  infertility number is predicted to double in the next few decades.

Unfortunately there are so many charming couples who are unable to experience this incredible miracle of God.   But a few of them are the most blessed ones, who against all odds take the courage to adopt a child , a child being born to someone else, being made from some unrelated genes , sometimes unfortunate or an unwanted child. 

Presumably, adopting a child does not sound like an easy decision to make. I would assume decades ago it was much more difficult and uncommon. The fostered children did not have the same fortune.

But modern society has been broad minded. More importantly, today’s generation seems to be more open minded and tolerant to some of these social issues. I take pride in knowing at least a few couples who have adopted children for different reasons, be it against the unkindness of nature or be it social enterprise or something else.

The question still comes to my mind if the affection and care an adopted child gets be the same as what we give to a biological child. Will it make a difference if a child is your or adopted.   Ideally the answer seems “yes” because otherwise why would most of us take pains to get into the birthing troubles and the lifelong effects it has at least on a woman’s form.

But in reality, if I look at some of the adoptive families I know and as per various discussions I had with different people who know such blessed families, I see no difference in care and love these parents give to their child to such an extent that at some point in life it will not matter at all if the child was biologically born to them to adoptively “born” to them.

Kudos from my side to anyone and everyone who out of whatever reasons take the extra spirited decision to shower their most precious love and life to their “adoptively-born” child.

On a concluding note, if at all it concerns the society that there are so many children around the world whose need of a loving family go un-addressed, I wish many of us including me could gather the courage, even if we have a biological child, to adopt at least one child to make this world a better place to live.

I know this post could be a very sensitive subject to many but I hope I do not hurt anyone. If any of my words hurt you in any way, I would like to apologise and ask for forgiveness as I have no intentions to cause any disgrace. Be it biological parents or adoptive parents, everyone deserves a praise for putting in all the efforts and love in raising a child.

A Glass 1/2 empty or 1/2 Full

Today I want to write for all the working women out there ...striving to excel at their jobs and at the same time striving to do justice to the very demanding household needs. Specially I want to take this moment to admire the working mothers, with no offenses to the housewifes and non-earning mothers. I believe all mothers are great achievers and all women excel in whatever they do.

But close to my heart is a working mother !!! .... ME . I want to express the hardwork, the pain , the guilt and the sentiments we carry, how hurt we are when someone says that we are not giving 100% time to our kids and leave them in a daycare.
I have personally come across questions like :"HOW can you leave your 1.5 yrs old son in the daycare !"
"HOW do you feel when you dont see his face for 9 hours"
"Oh poor boy ... he has to stay in the nursery"
"Oh dear ..you are not able to spend time with your child as much as we do"
" He's not learning much from you ... u are not around most of the times "
and so on ....

All the queries mostly coming from other women who not necessarily want to hurt you but sometimes do. I fail to understand sometime if they are trying to justify their non-working status by trying to show me the "1/2 empty glass". I  might sound rude, but honestly when someone challenges my "motherhood" ... I cannot take it.
Working or no-working .... we all carry the golden heart of a mother. A mother, no matter what circumstances, will always do the best for her kids.

I am a positive, strong headed professional person who wants the best out of best for everything. So , frankly, I get offended with this thought that is my child loosing out on something. But then I self treat myself and  think about it a bit differently. I apply the "1/2 glass full " philosophy.

And my "1/2 filled glass" says that every moment I live , I care about my family. Every moment I am away, I miss my son. So I collect all my love in my "little 1/2 glass" and keep it filled till I catch up with my child and usher on him all the missed hours ... I play, I dance and I do everything to make him happy and on the selfish side, make me happy !.
On the other hand, in the daycare kids learn so much. The statistics say that the kids who go to nurseries in an early stage turn out to me more social people. They make friends and learn to be self dependent so quickly and much more.

When my son grows up, I shall ask him if he ever felt that his mother is doing anything less .... I am sure his answer will be my Trophy.

So all the working mums out there, never feel that you are doing any less ...you are doing much more because you try your best to compensate for the lost hours by giving your kids the extra cuddles, the extra care and love whenever you are with them. You do the extra mile to keep them happy and pampered.

3 Cheers to all the "Working Mums" from my side.

Be Proud.